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The Power of Internal Language

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Words are potent means of not only transferring our ideas to the world. They are even more potent since it is with the power of language that we reconstruct the external reality of the world and shape our internal world and try to constitute a measure of certainty.  In fact, it is so powerful that with a slight difference in syntax and context of language we can change our internal world and under this, we will change and transform our means and methods of dealing with the external world.  Scientist has long been researching the origin, perpetuation, and differentiation of language.  The field of linguistics breaks down language study into several departments namely cognitive, generative, quantitative, and functional theories of grammar, phonology, morphology, syntax, lexis, semantics, pragmatics, and orthography. These are just a few building blocks of the intellectual hierarchy of humanity (language). Knowing that we are empowered with such powerful software, why don't we use

The False Hope Syndrome

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The Truth of The Matter and Fact is that wherever we are today ( Emotionally, Financially, Socially, Physically ...otherwise) is the result of our dominant and consistent patterns of behaviors across many domains. Unless we take a hold of these patterns and disrupt and engrave new pattern nothing will change.  We may have episodes of change but nothing will change in the long term. We at large have multiple personalities but generally speaking in terms of time there are three versions of  the self. Our past self, Present Self and  our Future self.  Most people have too much false hope for the future self when in fact they are too anchored in their past stories and most people have an even higher level of hope for the future when in fact they have bondage to hedonistic living.  However we all expect our future self to arrive in style, younger, richer and more liked and appreciated. We dream about that one event that will change everything, for some of us that event is a new job, or re

Thinking Errors That Destroy Relaitonships

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Cognitive Psychology is the science of how we perceive the world around us and how we think about and make sense of it all.  It suggests that our brain is an efficient and impatient calculating network that continually asks questions and demands answers. All of our thinking is logical loops and when there is a logical gap our brain completes the gap, through inductive and deductive reasoning.   This is a marvellous mechanism that helped us survive the tough life on earth. However, there are certain loops that we run without being aware of that cause a great deal of misconception,  misunderstanding and ultimately missteps that can impact our relationships adversely. I like to share some of our logical thinking errors that can be troublesome and detrimental in relationship building.  1.  Catastrophic thinking: That is jumping to the worst possible conclusion.   2   Black and White Thinking:  Thinking in an extreme all-or-nothing mentality, leads to distance and distrust. 3.  

Relationship Dynamics

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Dear Friends, It is my great pleasure to share with you the completion of certification as a Strategic Intervention Coach. I am here to serve individuals and organizations as a consultant for improved quality of interaction in the team dynamics. My work focuses on any group setting from a group of 2 to a multilevel complex dynamics. I belief and trust we grow most when we are able to interact wi thin a group and be able to foster an environment of better understanding others before trying to impose our views. It is in the ship of relations where real characters are tested, we either run away or run towards things. All most all adults are licensed to drive a motor vehicle and almost no one is licensed to practice relationship in "life" specially when it involves others' emotions, feelings, thoughts and outcomes. We often vicariously and cowardly sneak in and out of relationships through preconceived notions of cultural and societal pressures and norms or through our own